My husband and I got married on June 17th back in 2017, a few days before my birthday. That makes it one more month down to the day until we are celebrating our fifth wedding anniversary.
Like most married couples, I learned pretty quickly that the stress of planning a wedding is only the beginning. As we change our relationship status from dating, to engaged, to married, the roles and expectations change when this person is the plan for the only partner you will have for the rest of your life; only death, separation, or divorce that could split the pair of you.
There are no more fantasies about who you will settle down with, and what they are like, it’s this person and sometimes that can be daunting. That’s why I wanted to spend a bit of time today to write about something about him, our relationship, and our experience of being together.
We worked well in class together.
The first thing that made me interested in him was how we would communicate all class and worked well together. We had 2D Designs in a community college and we spent 3 ish hours every week together. We would work together on projects, joke with our table friends, and spent a lot of that time getting to know each other.
We sat on the beach for two to three hours
Eventually, about a month or so after we met, it was a really hot day outside. Our campus was located by the ocean and I jokingly said that I was going to jump into the water after class. He called my bluff, so I had to follow through. We spent the rest of the night chatting on the beach about almost everything. That was the first real time I developed heavy feelings for him. It felt natural as we talked, joked, and I honestly didn’t want to leave.
When I did, I realized that it was the first year that I didn’t cry on the anniversary of my grandmother’s death.
He was there to help me with my school work and kept me grounded.
Not only did he convince me to come to the city to go to the museum for our class, I was just going to take a bad grade, but he lent me a calculator for my big math test and made sure that I went to class. It annoyed me at the time, but it was nice to see that he cared about my education and encouraged me to be responsible; which is funny when people call him a bad influence; how?
We could talk for hours
After our trip to the beach, we would spend hours standing by my car after class and we would just talk. We talked about our high school, relationships, parents, and just everything. It felt like we knew each other before and I was surprised at how much I could be myself around him and that he seemed to feel comfortable around me.
Time flew by whenever I was hanging out with him and honestly, it’s still like this today. Believe it or not, there are still many things that I’m learning about him to this day.
It was always fun hanging out with him.
We had so many fun adventures together: the movies, going to Bullmoose (a music, movie, and book store), walking around campus, skipping rocks into the water, walking along the shore, going out to eat, sitting in the car, going for drives – everything was an adventure with him.
We could be sitting in his room playing video games, eating snacks, or going out together. I had a lot of fun hanging out with him.
He was good with kids.
When his mother invited me over for a week (which was really odd for him since we were not together at this point) I took the offer. While we were there, his nephew was really little at the time. He LOVES Nathan and he told his mom to go lay down while he watches him. To see him interact with his nephew filled my heart. I knew that he would be a great father in the future, well, a great candidate, and as a father of three beautiful girls, our daughters, I was correct.
That week with him was the first time I fell in love with him.
He loved me for me
Our relationship was slow on the “I love you” front, but I knew he was telling the truth when he finally said it. Unlike my past relationships, he loved me for the person I was. He loved that I was imperfect. He loved that I was myself. That doesn’t mean he liked all of my traits, but he never forced me to change or morphed me into what he wanted, he just loved me for the person I was and continued to love me as I shifted to a girlfriend, to a mother of his children, to his fiancee, to his wife, and loves me today.
These were the seven reasons that I fell in love with my husband, out of the many, and although he drives me crazy sometimes, I absolutely love this man and I’m so happy that the universe brought us together.
So, thank you, Nathan, for all that you do for me and our family, I love you on the good days and I love you on the bad. Thank you for choosing me and showing up for us every day.
Give a round of applause.
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